THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BEING POOR AND BEING CHEAP
You might wonder: does being cheap or poor tie directly to money? Well, yes and no. When we define poor, it does mean a shortage of cash, and you might think that a poor person IS a cheap person. But when it comes to women, your monetary value means little in terms of sexual attraction. When it comes to cheap versus poor, it’s all about her perception of your relationship with money.In other words, you could be a millionaire with tons of money to spare, but a girl can perceive you as CHEAP because of your behavior on a date. That’s what really matters.
If the intro story doesn’t already illustrate this, girls despise cheap men. However, being CHEAP is entirely different from being POOR. In many ways, being poor and coming off as such can help you (more on this later). There’s also nothing wrong with being well-off, successful, and wealthy. But what’s NOT okay is to be perceived as cheap.
As it pertains to attraction and the dating process, the key here is congruence. If your game, vibe, demeanor, and personality all fit a certain type that she can perceive, you had better stick to it.
NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING POOR
There is nothing inherently wrong with being poor and going to meet, pick up, and date women. If you’re poor and viewed as poor (but also sexy), it firmly puts you into a fast lover category for many women. You automatically disqualify yourself as a boyfriend and can move faster with a girl to arouse her and lead her all the way into the bedroom.
Most guys I know who are good with women are also not wealthy. Some are students or service workers who have tons of student loans; they’re teachers or restaurant workers. It’s common knowledge in the pickup artist world that the most consistent seducers are broke, and sometimes even homeless.
It goes to show that money and women aren’t connected intuitively. In some ways they are, but in others, they don’t need to be.
There are nuances to the poor man’s game. Not being well-off (you have roommates, live in a poor part of town, don’t have a great job, or you’re a frugal traveler) does not in and of itself create a barrier to having love with hot women.
WOMEN ARE DISGUSTED BY CHEAP MEN
The real kicker is when a woman views you as cheap. No matter what angle you come at it, it WILL kill your game if you allow her to think you’re cheap. As I’ve said before, the concept of “cheap” isn’t tied to actual money. It’s simply the perception of how you spend your money. It’s an indicator of your generosity, and as we know, women value providers, too, among lovers.
Being Seen as Poor vs. Cheap
There is a huge difference between being perceived as poor versus being perceived as cheap. In her eyes, whether you are poor or cheap with her — and remember, this is simply her perception, rather than what’s actually true about you — makes an enormous difference in whether or not she will sleep with you.
How can this be?
It depends on what frame you’re coming from, and what you’re going for with her. As I noted above, the poor frame is perfect for a lover, but a well-off guy is far more likely to be seen as a provider. But the more important fact isn’t the money itself, it’s protecting the social frame AND making sure that you’re not burdening the girl with an unexpected cost she didn’t agree to.
If you’re the leader of the group like in my story (and I clearly wasn’t a poor guy, as that’s not my style or real-life status), by not taking charge of the situation and covering the group, you’ll come off as cheap. But it was ME who invited them to the venue for drinks. It is the same on a date, as I’ll soon go over. It’s the girl who is usually agreeing to a guy’s plan and following his lead.
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