When we like someone, and they show interest, we assume they’ll want the same things. But that’s not always the case. Just because you have feelings for someone doesn’t mean that they’ll want to jump into a relationship with you. I know, it sucks. But what are you gonna do?
Don’t wait until she tells you she’s not ready for anything serious. If you’re paying attention to the signs she’s not emotionally ready for a relationship, you’ll be able to avoid a huge heartbreak after assuming she’s committed to the relationship as much as you are.
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Having feelings for someone is one thing, committing yourself to them is a completely different topic. So, don’t wait around trying to impress her and win her over. Instead, recognize the signs of emotional unavailability.
#1 She’s literally not available. Whenever you call or text her, she’s always busy, and hours later will manage to squeeze in a couple of words with you… or not. She may completely ghost you or use breadcrumbing tactics to keep you on the side. There’s no excuse; everyone is busy. If she can’t get back to you, she’s not that interested.
#2 She wants to keep the relationship a secret. Listen, after I was rejected by one guy I really liked, I started dating another guy. Yes, he was a rebound. And he really liked me, but I wasn’t interested or emotionally available for anything serious. Of course, I didn’t handle the situation well. I should have ended things, but instead, I tried to keep the relationship a secret while trying to get over rejection.
#3 You feel needy. You ask her to hang out or text her, but she behaves like you’re extremely dependent. When the truth is, you’re not! You’re just showing interest. But since she’s emotionally unavailable, your interest is coming off as needy and clingy. If she really liked you, you showing interest wouldn’t be a problem.
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#4 She’s not emotionally consistent. Man, am I having flashbacks! When you’re seeing someone who’s not emotionally available, you’re all over the place with your feelings. Mostly because of guilt. You’re seeing someone who really likes you, and you know nothing is going to happen on your end. One minute she’s happy, the next minute she’s rude and cold towards you. She’s going through an emotional rollercoaster that shouldn’t include you.
#5 She has a history of unstable relationships. You may be the first stable guy she’s encountered in a while. First of all, good for you. But if she has a track record of dating jerks and men who have played her, then there’s a solid chance she’s stuck in that unhealthy pattern. And that’s a hard pattern to break.
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#6 All the plans are last minute. This is one of those obvious signs she’s not emotionally ready for a relationship with you. Does she actually give you a real consideration, or does she think of you only when she has nothing better to do?
If she really liked you, she wouldn’t wait for better plans to come along. But, with her, she lets you know minutes before whether or not she’s going to spend time with you. That’s because you’re not a priority.
#7 She avoids conflict. Every relationship has a healthy dose of conflict. Through conflict, a couple can grow. But if she’s emotionally unavailable, she’ll avoid conflict. Why would she put herself in a situation that’ll make her reflect on her actions? That’s not going to happen. So, she’ll pretend like nothing is wrong.
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