How to Flirt After the First Date & Create the Right Kind of Sparks?

You finished a great first date, but you’re thinking to yourself, what do I do next? Well, you’re about to learn how to flirt after the first date.As if the first date wasn’t stressful enough. Now, you must learn how to flirt after the first date and show the person you’re interested in seeing them again. Of course, you can always tell them straight up and see what they say. This is the easiest way to figure out whether or not someone wants to see you again. But, being straightforward can be terrifying, and not everyone is willing to do it. I’m not even someone who can boldly ask someone if they’re interested in seeing me again. I usually waited to see how the conversation went after the first date. Then, I’d drop subtle hints until they either made a move or not.

How to flirt after the first date:

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So, if you’re someone who’s not into being a straight arrow, don’t worry. You can still let someone know you’re interested in them without having to say it. But this will require you to do some flirting.

Let’s all be honest… flirting is fun when you’re comfortable and confident. It may take a little time for you to get the hang of it, but once you get those wheels rolling, you’ll be a flirting force to be reckoned with. So, if you want to know how to flirt after the first date, here’s what you need to do to flirt your way to a second date.

#1 Your flirting will probably be done via text. I’ll assume that most of your communication after the first date will be done via text. That is unless you talk to each other on the phone. If that’s the case, first of all, good for you guys! And secondly, you can still use these tips. But for now, I’m going to be talking about them as if you are communicating via text. It just makes things easier.

#2 Any positive text is a good sign. Listen, unless you’re writing them a, “Hey, I didn’t feel any chemistry, but it was nice meeting you” text, the odds are you’re interested in seeing them again. So, any text message you send that isn’t a rejection text is seen as a positive message. If you’re nervous about being flirty right away, texting, “I had such a great time, thanks for the sushi” is creating a space to continue the conversation. #3 How was the actual first date? Were you two flirting on the actual first date? Or was there some awkwardness in the air? This matters because you should match your text message. If you didn’t look interested during the date, but suddenly are messaging this person like you’re in love with them, it doesn’t add up. So, measure what you’re going to say based on your date. #4 Test the waters before jumping in. You can be bold and send a very flirtatious text message. There’s a chance it won’t be received well. Instead, go easy into flirting. Don’t jump right in. You don’t really know this person; you’ve only been on one date.

#5 Text at the right time. Yes! Now, when it comes to knowing how to flirt after the first date, I don’t want to put too much of an emphasis on time, because there’s no exact time that you should text someone. There are some general guidelines though. After the date, give it a little bit of time before you send them a message. But, if there’s one thing I know, do not send a text at 11 pm at night. Unless you decided on a booty call relationship, there’s no reason to send the first text after your date past 8pm.

#6 Be flirtatious, not crude. Okay, I feel like I have to say this even though this should be a given. You can be flirtatious. Do not cross the line into crudeness. Be light, have fun, but do not act disrespectfully. This will not work well for you with now or in your future. Know where the line is and don’t cross it.