6 Online Dating Conversation Starters That Work Every Time!
Jun 16, 2020
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Break the ice in an effective way!
Dating nowadays often includes "meeting" someone virtually first, rather than in person. And the most effective and excellent online dating conversation starters are tailored to modern reality. They may seem contrived or disingenuous, but it’s all in the way you deliver. Starting a conversation and keeping it going is a big part of the online dating process.
1. Examine their profile for clues.
Successful online daters know they need to help others connect with them, so they use the written profile and photo gallery to give you "hooks" to help you engage.
2. Ask them what they think.
A simple, non-threatening request for an opinion is a great way to kick things off. People love to show off how smart they are and can’t resist the opportunity to give their opinion.
3. Ask for a small favor.
Based on the concept of Cognitive Dissonance, if you ask for a small favor and someone grants it, they are more inclined to like and engage with you. In the real world, this might be like asking someone, "Do you know what time it is?"In online dating, it's something like, "Can I ask you a favor? I just worked on my profile. Can you tell me what you think?”
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4. Stir pleasant memories.
People usually have fond memories of the physical place they grew up. If the person mentions where they grew up on their profile, then it’s fair to ask them about it. For example, you might ask, "What was it like growing up in your hometown?" Or, if you've been there, you can say, "I just visited your hometown. What was it like growing up there?"
5. Share your experiences.
If you're both using the same online dating site, you probably live in the same area. Ask about their experiences of using the site or about the craziest thing they’ve experienced using the site.
6. Introduce a "negative."
This allows them to learn what the other person doesn’t like.
For example, "So, what’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?" is a bit bold as an opener. But, this reminds the person you’re messaging that you're in the same boat when it comes to online dating. It’s a way to make talking feel less like an interview or an audition and more like a chance to commiserate. By asking this question, you can avoid making the same mistakes as their past dates. You’ll learn what food they hate or just where they don’t want to be taken.
