How to Flirt After the First Date & Create the Right Kind of Sparks

How to flirt after the first date 

So, if you’re someone who’s not into being a straight arrow, don’t worry. You can still let someone know you’re interested in them without having to say it. But this will require you to do some flirting.

#1 Your flirting will probably be done via text. I’ll assume that most of your communication after the first date will be done via text. That is unless you talk to each other on the phone. If that’s the case, first of all, good for you guys! And secondly, you can still use these tips. But for now, I’m going to be talking about them as if you are communicating via text. It just makes things easier

#2 Any positive text is a good sign. Listen, unless you’re writing them a, “Hey, I didn’t feel any chemistry, but it was nice meeting you” text, the odds are you’re interested in seeing them again. So, any text message you send that isn’t a rejection text is seen as a positive message.

If you’re nervous about being flirty right away, texting, “I had such a great time, thanks for the sushi” is creating a space to continue the conversation.

#3 How was the actual first date? Were you two flirting on the actual first date? Or was there some awkwardness in the air? This matters because you should match your text message. If you didn’t look interested during the date, but suddenly are messaging this person like you’re in love with them, it doesn’t add up. So, measure what you’re going to say based on your date.

#4 Test the waters before jumping in. You can be bold and send a very flirtatious text message. There’s a chance it won’t be received well. Instead, go easy into flirting. Don’t jump right in. You don’t really know this person; you’ve only been on one date.

#5 Text at the right time. Yes! Now, when it comes to knowing how to flirt after the first date, I don’t want to put too much of an emphasis on time, because there’s no exact time that you should text someone. There are some general guidelines though.

#6 Be flirtatious, not crude. Okay, I feel like I have to say this even though this should be a given. You can be flirtatious. Do not cross the line into crudeness. Be light, have fun, but do not act disrespectfully. This will not work well for you with now or in your future. Know where the line is and don’t cross it.