Be bold.
If none of the other suggestions appeal to you, go for broke and pay your crush a bold compliment. Try these possibilities, using the adjective that fits your crush best or substituting your own:
“I hope you know you’re gorgeous/beautiful/amazing/my favorite person to talk to/etc.”
“Sorry if this is too forward, but I have to say that you’re incredible/an amazing person/so beautiful/etc.”
Don’t come on too strong.
Avoid loading compliments with feelings too early. Leaving a person slightly uncertain of the extent of your feelings for them can increase your attractiveness, giving you a bit of a mysterious edge. The point is not to make the person question whether you like them at all, but to make them wonder how much you like them. If you just openly say, “I have a big crush on you” or “I’ve always thought you were so hot,” then you’re taking the mystery out of the exchange.
- Instead, you can send a text or a message that says something like, “You looked cute in your new sweater today” or another comment that is nice and flirtatious without giving it all away.
Convince your crush to pursue you instead of having to do the work yourself.
Though flirting should let the person know that you like him or her, you shouldn’t make it seem like you’re doing all of the work. Instead, you should be just flattering enough so that the person knows you’re interested, but leave him or her to wonder just how much you care. To achieve this, try phrasing compliments objectively rather than subjectively. Here are examples of objective vs subjective compliments:
- “I really like your eyes, they’re so pretty.” On the surface, this compliment may seem fine, and it probably would be appreciated. However, a common flaw in phrasing a romantic compliment is to constantly use the words “I like/love *insert trait here*”. They tell the person that they’ve succeeded in winning your heart. This is great if you’ve already built up a solid relationship, but early on it can make you seem “too easy”.
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