Many old perceptions are seen to be collapsing with the speed at which relationships are breaking today. Is it so much that the many myths about marriage are being proved wrong on the ground of reality? Or are the changes in people’s lives so big that they are unable to keep pace with the old form of marriage?
Marry, love each other, live life together, move together for the sake of children and family … marriage has been a very simple meaning. Our grandparents, their parents and our parents did the same. After all, how did this relationship become so complicated that it had to be surveyed and researched all over the world! To save marriage, you have to write articles and the counselors have to take the couple’s seatings on the day.
It is true that every person wants to save relationships. Despite this, one cannot always get what he wants in life. The same can be said about marriage. Marriage is arguably the closest relationship in life, but if you see some concrete truth about it beforehand, then the relationship can be better.
Many things are understood without saying love. The truth is that one can understand the words of the mind without saying, such a partner is found only in books or films. Even after telling the desires, needs and expectations openly, the partner will not necessarily understand everything as you want to explain. Even if understood, he will complete it, there is no guarantee. The reality is that tell the partner about your feelings and desires and know the fact that without telling it, he will not understand anything. By your words he can understand what are your expectations from the relationship. Dialogue is the only way to remain relaxed in a relationship.
Both should work equally. This is the truth! It may be that this goes against Feminism, but the truth is that marriage does not always have 2 + 2 = 4. Sometimes one partner gives 80 percent of his, but the other is able to give only 20 percent. There can be many reasons for this. Long hours of work, sickness, stress or pressure, fatigue…. The wife/husband should arrive from the office at 9-10 in the night and if the partner wants to come and manage the kitchen, then it is not good for marriage.
Equal sharing of household tasks is sometimes not practical. It is true that the couple is happy by sharing the work, but this rule cannot be followed by making a line of stones. If you are in the shape of Fifty-Fifty in marriage, then you will remain unhappy and sad. Marriage is good only when the desire to keep the partner happy is equally between the husband and wife. Who does more for the family? Who takes up more responsibilities…. Too much thinking on these things hurts the relationship. That is to say, in the same way, many kinds of beliefs persist in our society.