When relationships are difficult to maintain, keep yourself strong like this!

When a person is cheating on his spouse again and again, it becomes difficult to save such a relationship. Psychologist consultant Vichitra Dargan Anand is telling how to solve a similar problem. When someone repeatedly cheats on their spouse If such a relationship becomes difficult to save. Psychologist consultant Vichitra Dargan Anand is telling how to solve a similar problem. It was about six years ago. A young lady came to see me. Her husband used to work abroad. Before marriage, she was also a CA in a company but due to children, she had to leave the job. The behavior of the father was very suspicious. For example, he told his wife that I was very busy there. You never call me, I will call you. Meanwhile, many such things happened, which changed the wife’s suspicion that her husband lives in Singapore with another woman. She told me that these days her husband Naveen (changed name) is in Delhi. I told her to bring her along after two days.


Try to save the family

When she came to meet me with her husband in the next sitting, I talked to them separately. The person told me that a destitute girl was very upset there, I helped her as a human being. In this way we both came close to each other. The person apologized to my wife in front of me and said that after going back from here, he would not have any relation with the girl. The wife also agreed and the two went back.

Increasing difficulty

For almost two years after that, I did not get any news of that woman. Then one day suddenly he got a $ call. He told me that I have to meet you today. After the conversation, it became known that now her husband has returned home. She started saying, ‘I tried in every way but their habits are getting worse day by day. He has illicit relations with many women. He was such a liar, I had no idea. She blushed while saying. Then I asked her to come with her husband next time. The person was not at all sorry for his actions, but he started saying that my habits are like this and I cannot change them. Asha (changed name) is also completely free, he can do whatever he wants, wherever he wants. After hearing all this, I had a feeling that there is no scope for improvement in that person.

A new beginning finally

Next time I called Asha alone and explained to her that now you have to take the responsibility of raising children well. I told him that you have to become financially independent. So until you get a job, start a freelance job from home. After that you have to think about your future afresh. In this way, Asha kept coming to see me many times. His consultancy job was going well. Meanwhile, he also got a job in good company. After the end of her son’s board examination, she came to meet me and said, how long do I have to bear the beatings of her? Now I want to break away from this relationship. I explained to him that you should get the help of a good lawyer for this. A week later, when she came to see me, she said that my husband also wanted the same.


Therefore, we have approached the court for divorce with mutual consent. In this way, they were fried within a year. The husband shifted to his second flat. The children expressed a desire to be with the mother. Therefore, he agreed in the court but he was allowed to meet his father once a month. Recently one day he called me and told me that his elder son has become an engineer and younger is also doing MBA. Asha looked very happy after getting out of a sad relationship like this. This was a case in which Asha’s counseling lasted for many years at uncertain intervals. During that time, he dared to get out of the tragic nerves, which saved his life.